reprogram your toxic habits

There are a million different ways we stand in the way of our dreams and don’t let them in. Here's what to do about that.

A famous actor came into the Starbucks I was picking up coffee at.

I never go to Starbucks because it is embarrassing since the coffee is notoriously bad and I generally don’t support large corporate brands, especially when I can buy a much better coffee from a friendly independent barista whose dream is to serve their community good coffee.

But I was in Hollywood with a friend and that’s where she wanted to go so we went.

He was/is short.

For some reason, I am under the delusion that all seemingly attractive men need to be at least 5.11. Whenever I come across one around my height the inner me raises one eyebrow and quietly says to herself “Really?!”. I don't know. Blame social conditioning.

I didn’t know he was famous. What I noticed when he walked through the door was his light denim jacket, covered in large watercolour-painted patches. He stood shoulder to shoulder with me so I turned to him and smiled “I like your jacket.”

“Thanks” he grinned back quietly.

It was my turn and I ordered two Iced Honey Oatmilk Shaken Espresso Lattes. Then I stood to the side where my friend was waiting, doing a weird little tip-toe dance and flailing her arms at me.

“What?” I asked her.

“That’s Aaron Paul! From Breaking Bad! You just spoke to him! Omg what should I do, what should I do, whatshouldIdo!” she whispered at me dramatically.

“Really?!!” I replied incredulously. “But… he’s so short!”

“Don’t do anything. He’s just a person.” I added.

Hollywood is a strange place. A place filled to the brim with people and their dreams. Some of them fulfilled, many unfulfilled.

When we think about dreams, we think about desires we hold for ourselves, our loved ones and our lives. The fulfilment of dreams is a co-creation, where we meet the universe halfway to create something that has once only existed in imagination.

Most of society will have us believe that fulfilling dreams is about doing it all and doing it right, but most of all, it’s about getting out of our own way.

There are a million different ways we stand in front of what we want and don’t let it in.

I use (and teach my private clients) a really easy acronym called the RRRRI Method.

Reflect
Review
Release
Replace
Integrate