wave after wave after wave...

how to pull yourself out of depression, grief and other dark places...

Wave after wave it hits. The feeling of slipping beneath the surface. It can feel like no amount of struggle lessens the power of those waves. Wave after wave after wave after wave. No reprieve, no relief, no peace. you're just being pummeled by these waves of emotions bigger than a human body can contain. Grief, depression, long anxiety…

Then with time, the waves are still there, but each wave is accompanied by several minutes of peace before the next wave. A little more time to breathe and be. The desperate sense of slipping under is replaced by a feeling of still being submerged, but no longer having to endure the grapple for a breath between each wave.

Ultimately, the waves never go away. But the space of time in between each wave gets longer and longer. Eventually you go a whole day before another wave hits. Then a week. Then a month. Eventually it's a whole year

And maybe you feel a big wave of those familiar feelings that might haunt you on an anniversary of that loss, or the when you first started feeling this way before being okay for another year until another wave hits.

Depression, grief and other dark places move through us like waves. When you have a really, really significant loss in your life it's never over.

You carry that with you forever. But the waves get farther and farther and farther apart as you grow and heal and grow into your new life. Being really honest about that is really comforting to know.

And then in that new space that all that depression and grief has carved out of your soul opens up for beautiful things that weren’t available to you before

Every single journey is different, but there are some life changes and circumstances that feel like a death of the life that you had, an identity, a future, a world view even.

You don't have to be okay. Until your ready. It takes as long as it takes to consolidate.

Still… how to pull yourself out of depression, grief and other dark places?